Lexi Lipstick

My New Tumblr

Lexi Lipstick — Thu, 20 Oct 2011 17:42:56 +0000

Hello all, I’ve started a new Tumblr blog – check it out here!

xoxo

Burlesque Moulin at Speakeasy Cabaret

Lexi Lipstick — Sat, 15 Oct 2011 19:23:19 +0000

Dinner, drinks, Burlesque Moulin & the live swing band Lost Dog Found! I’ll be performing here tonight at the Shattuck Down Low in Berkeley, CA. Come on out & boogie!!

Speakeasy Cabaret
Presented by Burlesque Moulin & Lost Dog Found
Saturday, October 15th, 2011
Shattuck Down Low
2284 Shattuck Ave
Berkeley, CA
Doors & Dining: 7pm | Show: 8pm
$12 General Admission

Click here for the Facebook event page!

Kinky Treats

Lexi Lipstick — Wed, 14 Sep 2011 10:07:00 +0000

It’s that time again…time for Folsom Street Fair debaucherous festivities! Come join me this Sunday for a pre-Folsom party, featuring burlesque, pole dancing, raffles & cupcakes!!

Kinky Treats
Presented by the Lusty Lady, SF & the Black Widows
Sunday, September 18th
Red Devil Lounge
1695 Polk Street (cross street is Clay)
San Francisco, CA 94109
8p – 11:30p
$7 cover, Ages 21+

Click here for the Facebook event page!

Earth Men are Easy

Lexi Lipstick — Thu, 21 Jul 2011 22:40:46 +0000

Come join me TONIGHT for Earth Men are Easy!! I’ll be performing a Sci-Fi number along with my fellow ladies of the Lusty Lady, SF and the Black Widows at the Uptown in Oakland, CA. See you there!

Earth Men are Easy
Presented by the Lusty Lady, SF & the Black Widows
Thursday, July 21st
The Uptown
1928 Telegraph Ave @ 19th St
Oakland, CA
8p – 1:30am
$10 cover, Ages 21+

Lusty Lady at SF LGBT Pride

Lexi Lipstick — Tue, 05 Jul 2011 21:24:25 +0000

Here’s some footage I just found from the San Francisco LGBT Pride Parade that took place last week. You can see me and my fellow Lusties on the Lusty Lady float, at about 6 minutes into the clip. I’m on the top of the float wearing a pink fedora & standing next to my pal Sadie – she’s rather booty-tastic! Enjoy;)

New Pics!

Lexi Lipstick — Thu, 30 Jun 2011 23:04:44 +0000

Lusties at the Cat Club SF TONIGHT!

Lexi Lipstick — Thu, 23 Jun 2011 20:57:00 +0000

Hey all, me and my fellow Lusties will be dancing at the Cat Club SF tonight! The guest DJ is Heklina from Trannyshack & the event will help support the Lusty Lady’s presence at the LGBT Pride Parade this year. The parade is this Sunday, 6/26/11, and starts at 10:30am (here’s a map). Hope to see you there!

Cat Club SF

1190 Folsom St (cross street is 8th St)

San Francisco, CA

9p – 3a

FREE before 9:30p, $6 cover after

Clean secrets revealed: the Lusty Ladies | San Francisco Bay Guardian

Lexi Lipstick — Sat, 21 May 2011 22:09:00 +0000

Clean secrets revealed: the Lusty Ladies | San Francisco Bay Guardian

Check out this article that interviews me & my hot Lusty coworkers Sandy, Cinnamon & Bijou!

Wordy Wednesday: Compersion

Lexi Lipstick — Thu, 17 Feb 2011 07:59:42 +0000

The definition of Compersion (via Wikipedia):

“Compersion is a state of empathetic happiness and joy experienced when an individual’s current or former romantic partner experiences happiness and joy through an outside source, including, but not limited to, another romantic interest. This can be experienced as any form of erotic or emotional empathy, depending on the person experiencing the emotion.”

Example: “When Leila’s boyfriend Tom mentioned how excited he was to go on a first date with his spinning instructor, she was in a happy state of compersion. Leila was excited for Tom because she knew that he has been wildly attracted to him for a long time!”

What are your favorite ways to use the word compersion?

Tight Rope and Hard Spankings

Lexi Lipstick — Mon, 20 Dec 2010 13:01:00 +0000

What is it about kinky desire? I certainly have it and have played with many people who enjoy this kind of sexuality. There’s all sorts of BDSM play – spanking, rope bondage, flogging, caning, feminization and on and on. Of course, not every kink is for every person. It’s beautifully amazing, however, to see how much people reveal to me about their kinky desires if just given the room to feel safe in their disclosures. I don’t take these admittances for granted. Actually it’s quite the opposite; to those who share with me their kinkiest secrets, I am thankful and feel honored. I know it’s not always an easy thing to do and I appreciate those who do enough self-inquiry to be able to name what it is that they want. Furthermore, being in the presence of someone who can politely request and wholeheartedly receive is an awesome space.

At the recent Lusty Lady Holiday Party I had the privilege of experiencing my first rope suspension with Dan of the Two Knotty Boys. Holy hell, it was a lot more intense than I thought it would be. I’ve experienced rope bondage before, which is intense enough, but had never been suspended. It was painful, it was pleasurable and seriously sensual. Dan was attentive to my physical and mental state & responded quickly when I reached my limit…not to mention that he created an exquisite rope design on my body! It was an experience that I was glad I had. The night proceeded to get kinkier and kinkier with my fellow Lusty Ladies and guests, which was fabulous. My love to consensually dominate took over & I’ll just say that it got very hot in that club.

Which leads me back to my original musing: from what place do these kinky proclivities arise? I cannot answer that question for anyone but myself and truly, I feel that I am still exploring it. Of course, there exists in humans the capacity for pleasurably intense physical sensations. Beyond that, I’ve pondered historical non-consensual power play & wonder about the potential for power reclamation through kink. Our human history is not exclusively progressive and happy – it’s also filled with pain, sorrow and abuses. How can we not have that complex past embedded in our collective psyche, to say nothing of the current state of the world and on an individual level, the current state of each of our lives? It is a brave choice to jump into this human experience.

My practice of BDSM, both in dominant and submissive roles, has brought me to some powerful places that oftentimes, quite frankly, feel transcendent. In the midst of an intense kink scene there is no room for the existence of anything other than me, my partner(s), our histories, our desires and the tasks at hand: to feel, risk, ask, receive and live. And to that, I would also add the task of dying. The French metaphorically describe orgasms as “la petite mort” (the little death) and I believe the same sentiment can apply to a well-negotiated and well-played kink scene; gone are the initial worries, the menial trials of the day and opened are the spirits, the bodies and the minds. Fears can be surpassed and new conceptual spaces can unfold from the most tucked away corners of existence.

During a talk I attended last year by Cléo Dubois, I was introduced to the the idea of BDSM play as a form of ritual. I loved that thought and have drawn upon it many times. Whether intentionally or haphazardly engaged, we are all experiencing many types of rituals everyday. It is with great reverence and joy that I choose to experience the ritual of kink play. For it’s eroticism, for it’s transcendent potential, for it’s pleasure, for it’s pain and for the journey I can take in the presence of kink, I will continue to enact these rituals. And of course, being a supportive pervert, I will continue to welcome those who desire the firm touch of my paddle. With every smack on the ass, I will (quietly) cheer my submissives on in their journey of authentic deviance.